Why Don't Dreams Come True?

Chapter One

Sometimes, We Just Don't Like Ourselves

(The Case Of The Have-Nots!)

A. Poor Self-Image

1. At age 16, I ran away from home and married a basketball player. Four years later, I was divorced, with a child. I blamed the world got not being able to make my world perfect, but the problem was mine. (Like my friend, Norma Beasley, we were the 'Have-Nots". At age 12, when milking, the cow kicked her over. She lay in the mud and vowed, "I will not do this all my life". She thought about the people in her tiny rural town in Arkansas and pondered, "who is the richest person in town? My Daddy's lawyer! "I'm going to be a lawyer. Divorce, death, disaster, the Lawyer wins". she determined.) She is one who has the 'that something' What was it?

2. In Yonkers, NY I was making $85.00 per week, and it cost $55 per week too board my daughter. I eventually moved south and started working for Braniff Airways in Memphis. At night, I worked for Arthur Murray, where I met Tony. He adopted Deana, and had two other children;

3. I am what I think you think I am. That's the definition of self-image. When my life wasn't going well, I thought poorly of myself. When it changed, so did my self-image. So changing self-image is a matter of changing your "friends" if they have a tendency to put you down. Dee's Self Image Paul Meyer, Strong Self-Image.

B. Fear- Aversion to meeting challenges.

1. Story of stage fright while leading group in song.

2. Because I was forced to return to the stage, I overcame fear, which was essential to becoming a public speaker.

C. Negative attitudes

1. With no faith in self, there's no faith in abilities

2. People play unpleasant tapes of their past. But dwelling on the past embarrassments and failures is harmful

3. Self-Imposed Limitations-- Mountains in mind that must be removed.

D. Taught restraining principles

1. We're conditioned to avoid risk

2. We're conditioned to avoid being wrong

E. Afraid to start small

1. 85% of new jobs in the couontry are created by small businesses. There are 60,000 small businesses in the tiny-populated state of Arkansas

2. Everything signigicant starts small.

Analysis/Action:

Others: Paul Meyer- Success Motivation Institute

Norma Beasley- Safeco Land and Title Co.

Action: Summary/Personal Action Step: